What Is Domestic Abuse?
- Does your partner bully you?
- Does he put you down in front of others, including your children?
- Are you scared of your partner?
- Does he constantly check up on you?
- Are you worried you might upset your partner by having your own opinion?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be experiencing domestic abuse. Read on to recognise more signs of domestic abuse.
The following is a list of abusive behaviours which may help you recognise if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship.
- Destructive criticism and verbal abuse: shouting; mocking; accusing; name calling.
- Pressure tactics: threatening to withhold money; disconnect the telephone; commit suicide; take the car away; take the children away; lying to friends and family about you.
- Disrespect: persistently putting you down; not listening or responding when you talk; refusing to help with child care or housework.
- Breaking trust: lying to you; withholding information from you; having other relationships; breaking promises.
- Isolation: monitoring or blocking your telephone calls; telling you where you can and cannot go; preventing you from seeing friends and relatives; making you a prisoner in you own home.
- Harrassment: following you; checking up on you; opening your mail; checking your mobile phone; dialling 1471 to see who has telephoned you.
- Threats: angry gestures; using physical size to intimidate; weilding a weapon; threatening to kill or harm you, your children, friends or family.
- Sexual violence: using force, threats or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts; sexual degredation; forced sado-masochistic practices.
- Physical violence: Punching; slapping; hitting; biting; kicking; burning; strangling; raping; beating; denying you food, warmth or sleep.
- Denial: Saying the abuse doesn’t happen; saying you caused the abuse to happen; being gentle in public and violent in private; saying it will never happen again.
Domestic violence is a crime